Would You Rather Questions for Couples: Light to Deep

With "would you rather" you have to decide, even when both options are useless or both are great. That's exactly why would you rather questions for couples are so good: the choice shows what matters to you, and the reasoning behind it is usually more interesting than the answer. Below you'll find over 50 questions in four levels, from silly to serious.

How to play as a pair

One person asks the question, the other answers and says why. Then the first answers the same question. Done. No scoreboard, no winners.

What makes the game better:

Don't dodge. "It depends" doesn't count, you have to decide.
Ask follow-ups. If someone says "I'd rather be able to fly", ask: where to first?
Answer first, compare after. You can also both write your choice on a slip and reveal at the same time. Often you chose the same thing for completely different reasons.
Swap halfway through: in the first round you ask, in the second the other does.

One question an evening can be enough if it's a good one. You don't have to work through the list.

Light would you rather questions for laughs

Would you rather never drink coffee again or never eat chocolate again?
Would you rather eat pizza every day for a month or pasta every day for a month?
Would you rather always be ten minutes early or always ten minutes late?
Would you rather live in a tent on the beach or in a cabin in the mountains?
Would you rather speak every language or play every instrument?
Would you rather turn your voice into singing or only be able to whisper?
Would you rather give up streaming or give up music?
Would you rather travel back in time or see into the future?
Would you rather be invisible for a day or read minds for a day?
Would you rather have a talking dog or a cat that guesses your thoughts?
Would you rather have endless summer or endless fall?
Would you rather live in a city by the sea or a city in the mountains?
Would you rather dance like a pro or sing like a star?
Would you rather never be late again or never have to wait again?
Would you rather wear the same outfit every day for a year or something completely new every day?

Would you rather questions for the newly in love and the curious

This round shows how you picture daily life together.

Would you rather spend a perfect evening at home or a spontaneous evening out?
Would you rather get a surprise party or a completely private celebration for two?
Would you rather be given a handwritten letter or a weekend away together?
Would you rather travel with me without planning anything or settle everything beforehand?
Would you rather get a small gesture every day or something big once a year?
Would you rather watch a film at home or play a game outside?
Would you rather build a house together or travel the world together?
Would you rather move to my hometown or have me move to yours?
Would you rather have breakfast together every morning or cook together every evening?
Would you rather go dancing with me or go hiking with me?
Would you rather get a rose or a pizza when I just feel like it?
Would you rather find out what I first liked about you, or what annoyed me at first?
Would you rather have more time together or less time that's really good?

Would you rather questions for couples who want to know more

Here wishes and habits come to the table without it getting heavy.

Would you rather argue and talk straight afterwards, or sleep on it first and then talk?
Would you rather have separate accounts or run everything together?
Would you rather live in a small apartment in the city or a big house in the country?
Would you rather spend more time with friends or more time alone?
Would you rather share everything in a relationship or keep certain things to yourself?
Would you rather raise our kids in the country or in the city?
Would you rather I tell you when something bothers me, even if it hurts, or break it to you gently?
Would you rather love a job that pays little or have a well-paid job that doesn't fulfill you?
Would you rather spend Christmas with your family or with mine?
Would you rather live abroad with me or stay at home?
Would you rather we did more or had more quiet?
Would you rather pay for help around the house or go without something else?
Would you rather have one long conversation a week or a short one every day?

Would you rather questions to make you think

Some decisions have no right answer. That's exactly why it's worth talking them through as two.

Would you rather be very good at one thing for life or decent at many things?
Would you rather know when you'll die, or how?
Would you rather forget everything that hurt you or keep everything that shaped you?
Would you rather live in a world where nobody lies, or in one where everyone can forgive any mistake?
Would you rather be famous with little private life, or unknown and free?
Would you rather be 20 again or keep your current age with today's knowledge?
Would you rather correct a mistake that taught you a lot, or leave it?
Would you rather make a decision alone or together with others, even if that's slower?
Would you rather have everybody like you, or have a few people truly understand you?
Would you rather always hear the truth in a relationship or sometimes be gently spared?

With the last questions, someone may tell you something you didn't know before. Listen then, before you judge. If old hurts come up that stay with you, a conversation with a couples counselor or therapist can help.

Keep talking afterwards

The best question after any answer is the simplest: "Why?" After that: "When did you first notice that?" With two follow-ups you turn a game into a conversation. You'll find more questions in this direction in our lists of questions to make you think and philosophical questions.

If you'd rather point at others than decide, try who's most likely to. For evenings with more choice we've collected games for couples.

Building your own questions

The best would you rather questions come from your own daily life. A pattern to build your own: two things you both know, and one of them is a sacrifice. "Would you rather give up your breakfast or your evening walk?" only works for people with a breakfast and an evening walk. The more specific the question, the better the answer.

Another trick: change a question until it hurts. "Would you rather live in Rome or Paris?" is nice. "Would you rather live in Rome, where I can't find a job, or in Paris, where I'd be happy but you wouldn't?" gets you talking.

Where Us2 fits

A question a day that you both answer separately has something of this game, just without the either-or. In Us2 you only see the other's answer once you've answered yourself. Afterwards you talk about it, like in a chat. For long answers you can record a voice message instead, which comes with a text transcript.

On Us2 you can try it for three days without payment details, in the browser, on iPhone or on Android.