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Guides for couples
Questions, date ideas and honest tips for the two of you. Everything you read here, you can try tonight.
36 Questions to Fall in Love: The Study and All Three Sets
What Arthur Aron's 1997 study actually tested, the 36 questions to fall in love in three sets, reworded, and how to use them years into a relationship.
Anniversary Gifts: Ideas for Him and for Her
Anniversary gift ideas sorted by experience, personal touch and small budget, for him and for her. Plus one idea that costs next to nothing.
Anniversary Ideas: How to Spend the Day Together
Anniversary ideas without gift stress: rituals, looking back, day trips and nights in, for couples in their first year and after twenty.
Arguing in a Relationship: Why It Escalates, How to Slow It
Do your arguments keep escalating? How to slow down mid-fight, make up afterwards, handle recurring topics, and when outside help makes sense.
Best Apps for Couples: What to Check Before You Pay
Which app for couples fits? Types of apps, what to check on privacy and price for two, and an honest look at when you don't need an app at all.
Birthday Gift Ideas for Girlfriend or Boyfriend
Birthday gifts for your girlfriend or boyfriend: personal, affordable ideas for new couples, long relationships, long distance and a small budget.
Birthday Wishes for Girlfriend or Boyfriend: 3 Questions
Personal birthday wishes for your girlfriend or boyfriend: three questions instead of copied quotes, with examples for a card or a text.
Bored in a Relationship? What Helps When Routine Takes Over
Routine is not the same as boredom. Small new things and real curiosity about each other bring movement back into a relationship that has settled in.
Card Game for Couples: How It Works, How to Make One
How a question game for couples works, which rules hold up, and how to make your own card game for two in 30 minutes.
Christmas Gifts for Couples: Ideas Sorted by Budget
Christmas gifts for couples in three tables: almost free, small budget, when it can be more. Plus an advent calendar made of 24 questions.
Communication in Relationships: How to Be Understood
I-statements, listening without fixing, picking the right moment and small daily check-ins: what really improves how couples talk.
Conversation Topics for Couples: Ideas for Any Moment
Over 40 conversation topics for couples: dinner, a walk, a long evening. Plus tricks so a conversation doesn't die after two sentences.
Couples Quiz: How Well Do You Know Me? 30 Questions
A couples quiz for at home: 30 'how well do you know me' questions, a simple scoring system and rules that keep it fun instead of starting a fight.
Date Ideas for Every Budget and Every Season
Date ideas sorted by budget, season, indoors and outdoors. For new couples and for couples who have known each other for years.
Date Night Ideas at Home: Low Time, Low Budget
Date night ideas at home: for couples on a tight budget, with kids in the house or on video in a long-distance relationship. Concrete, little prep.
Deep Conversation Questions for Couples
Deep conversation questions about closeness, trust, fears and the future, for adult couples. With tips on setting the scene and on listening well.
Deep Questions for Couples: 40 Questions to Talk About
40 deep questions about values, fears and your relationship. Plus how to answer honestly without hurting, and when it's better to stop.
Equal Partnership in a Relationship: Signs and Habits
What an equal partnership looks like: fair decisions, mental load, everyday respect and questions to check honestly where the two of you stand.
Fall Date Ideas: 17 Ideas for Golden and Gray Days
Fall date ideas: hiking through leaves, pumpkin carving, a cider mill, a cooking night and a plan B for rainy days. With questions for the walk.
Fear of Commitment in Relationships: Signs and Help
Fear of commitment in a relationship: typical signs, how you can respond as a partner, and when a therapist or couples counsellor can help.
First Date Ideas: 15 Places That Keep It Relaxed
Where to go on a first date, what to skip and how to keep the conversation easy. With 15 ideas for every budget and questions for the pauses.
First Date Questions: First Meeting and Date Night
First date questions, plus questions for the date night of long-term couples. Good conversation starters so it doesn't stay at small talk.
Funny Questions for Couples: Date Nights and Road Trips
Funny questions for couples: would-you-rather, absurd thought games and everyday questions for evenings in, road trips and long phone calls.
Future Questions for Couples: 40+ Conversation Starters
Future questions and questions before marriage: kids, money, where to live, work and growing old together. How to talk openly about your plans.
Games for Couples: Ideas for Two, Near or Far
Games for couples with little prep: conversation games, card and board games, long-distance ideas. With rules you can make up yourselves.
Get to Know You Questions for Dates and Couples
Good get to know you questions for new dates and for couples who want to discover each other again after years. With tips to keep the talk alive.
Gift Ideas for a New Relationship: What Fits Each Stage
What do you give when the relationship is still new? Gift ideas by stage, from the first weeks to the first anniversary of meeting, and for friends in love
Gifts for Couple Friends: Ideas by Occasion
What to give friends who are a couple: ideas for dinner invites, moving in, weddings, babies and just because, plus tips on when to chip in together.
Gifts for Couples: 10 Ideas That Are More Than a Thing
Ten gifts for couples that two people use, live through or carry on. Each idea says which kind of couple it suits, and what to leave off your list.
Gifts for the Couple Who Has Everything: Four Questions
A couple who has everything doesn't need another thing. Four questions lead you to the right gift: time, an experience, relief or something to use up.
How Long Does the Honeymoon Phase Last? What Comes Next
An honest answer without made-up numbers: why the honeymoon phase lasts different lengths of time for different couples, and how to stay close after it.
How to Build Trust in a Relationship (or Rebuild It)
How to build trust or rebuild it: what helps after small letdowns, what's needed after a big breach, and when you need outside support.
How to Make Up After a Fight: Finding Your Way Back
How to make up after a fight when the anger is already there: a pause, an apology, the talk afterwards and small gestures that really help.
How to Save Your Relationship: Honest Steps When It's Stuck
How to save your relationship, how to tell when you need outside help, and why not every relationship should be saved.
How to Split Household Chores Fairly, Without Fighting
How to split household chores without a fight: make the work visible, hand off the mental load and try three systems that hold up in real life.
Jealousy in a Relationship: Causes, Talking, Limits
Where jealousy in a relationship comes from, how to talk about it without fighting, and how to tell when it tips over into control.
John Gottman: What His Studies Show About Couples
Bids, 5 to 1, 86 percent, 93 percent: which famous Gottman numbers are in his studies, which aren't, and what you can use day to day.
Living Apart Together: Couples With Two Homes
How many couples in Germany live apart, why, how satisfied they are and who wants to move in together. With figures from BiB and DZA.
Long Distance Relationship Statistics: What Studies Show
How many couples live apart, whether long distance relationships fail more often and what happens after moving in together. Every number with a source.
Long Distance Relationship Tips: Rituals, Visits, Money
Practical long distance relationship tips: rituals, rhythm, visits, money, jealousy and what to talk about when you speak every day.
Love Languages: The Five Ways to Show Love
The five love languages by Gary Chapman explained, plus a free test with no paywall that the two of you can do yourselves in one evening.
Moving In Together Tips: Questions, Chores, First Months
Moving in together tips from real life: questions to settle before the move, how to handle space and money, and what helps in the first months.
Philosophical Questions for Couples: 40 to Talk About
40 philosophical questions for couples, from thought games to time, happiness and death. With tips for talking about them without turning it into a fight.
Phubbing: What It Is and What It Does to Relationships
Phubbing means ignoring your partner for your phone. What a meta-analysis of almost 20,000 people shows and what you can change tonight.
Questions for Couples: Conversations That Go Somewhere
Questions for couples sorted by topic: daily life, closeness, the future, family and laughs. Plus tips for turning them into a real conversation.
Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend: Ideas for Real Talks
Questions to ask your boyfriend that go beyond 'How was your day?': funny, honest and deep, with tips on when and how to ask them.
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend: Ideas for Closeness
Questions to ask your girlfriend that show interest instead of quizzing her: from light to deep, with tips on how to ask and how to listen well.
Questions to Ask Your Partner You've Never Asked Before
Questions to ask your partner if you've been together a long time: things you may never have asked, and how to ask them without pressure.
Questions to Fall in Love: 40 Questions That Build Closeness
Questions to fall in love for the first weeks: what builds closeness, 40 questions in four levels, and how to keep it from feeling like an interrogation.
Questions to Make You Think: For You Alone and for Two
35 questions to make you think: first for you alone, then for you as a couple. With tips on writing things down and how to share your answers.
Relationship After Having a Baby: Staying Close as a Couple
Tiredness, roles, small moments for two and asking for help: how to stay a couple after the birth and not become only a parenting team.
Relationship Rituals for Couples: 25 Ideas, Daily to Yearly
Relationship rituals for weekdays, weekends and anniversaries: small, fixed habits that keep you close even when your calendar is full.
Road Trip Questions for Couples: 38 Questions and 8 Games
Road trip questions for two: funny, deep and future questions, plus games that need no gear, so the hours to your destination pass quickly.
Romantic Questions for Couples: Date Night and Everyday
Over 30 romantic questions for date night, daily life and texts in between. No cheese, plus tips on how to actually ask them.
Taking a Break in a Relationship: Rules and Risks
A break in a relationship can give you air or make everything worse. How to agree on length and rules, and how to tell if it is helping you.
Talking About Money in a Relationship: Open and Fair
Money in a relationship without fights: talking about habits, joint or separate accounts and fairness when incomes differ.
The Four Horsemen in a Relationship: What Studies Show
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling: what Gottman's studies really show, what's behind the 93 percent, and what to do differently in a fight.
Truth or Dare Questions for Couples: 50 Ideas
Truth or dare questions for two: from harmless to bold, plus dares that are fun and rules for a fair game.
Valentine's Day Ideas Without the Kitsch and Hype
Valentine's Day ideas for home and out, cheap and elaborate, from breakfast to evening. For couples who would rather skip the fuss.
What Makes a Good Relationship? What Studies Show
Seven findings from couples research, with numbers and sources: good news, gratitude, novelty, laughter, questions, sleep. Plus what to try tonight.
Who's Most Likely To Questions: 50 Ideas for Couples
Who's most likely to questions for laughs and surprises: for couples, friends and long evenings. With rules, variations and questions from silly to deep.
Winter Date Ideas: 20 Ideas for Indoors and Outdoors
Winter date ideas: a walk in the snow, a spa day, a cooking night, a holiday market and ideas for gray days that don't cost much.
Would You Rather Questions for Couples: Light to Deep
Would you rather questions for couples, from laughs to deep thoughts: over 50 either-or questions, game rules and ideas for talking on afterwards.